Written by | Posted September 8, 2015 – 9:51 pm Descent and Ascent

It didn’t take long to get from Thunder Bluff to the Echo Isles – Ankona took advantage of a wyvern so she could think and plan before getting to her destination. She had information to confirm with the spirits – was Gromnor dead? Was he really in the northern part of the Eastern Kingdoms, somewhere […]

Old and Established meet New and Exciting
comment Comments Off on Old and Established meet New and Exciting Written by on May 7, 2010 – 11:21 am

Roleplay is about making connections with people and creating relationships. Fun!

But a lot of us play multiple characters, and RP with various and different people on each one. Which is just as great. The problem I want to tackle here is one that seems to show up whenever there’s some turnover in RP, or when a storyline comes to a natural lull (not every story is exciting all the time) just as another story ramps up.

What happens when one person in an RP relationship (romantic or otherwise) starts up a second relationship, possibly on another alt, with other people?

Unfortunately the answer is often the first person getting left in the dust, not knowing what’s going on, or just being ignored while the second person doesn’t even realize what a change they’ve made to their playing style as they accommodate this new and exciting RP.

So why is all this so frustrating? I’m going to quote Yva, from WTT:RP on this one:

I think when someone finds a player in game they click with, they get a mini adrenaline rush – someone has tantalized your brain, yay! A bit like when you meet someone outside of game you really click with, ain’t it? That makes it really, really hard to turn the LET’S DO IT synapses off and take the necessary breath to make sure you’re not going into something you’re not prepared for.

New, exciting fun RP is new and exciting and fun. You’ve got someone that is making your brain fire in all kinds of awesome creative ways, you’re dreaming up stories and plotlines and events and things to do together and it’s GREAT.

Except for one thing. If there are other roleplay relationships that you’ve taken the time to cultivate? They don’t magically go away when you have new RP plotbunnies to chase.

So how do you balance the two, so that you can enjoy the awesome new RP without flaking out on the other people you’ve committed to RPing with?

  • Make sure you can sustain two in-depth storylines – Whether romantic, dramatic, or just friends, every RP relationship takes time. If you don’t have the time to give to two relationships, it’s not really nice to jump headlong into something new and leave someone behind whose character is tied up in yours but who has no way to finish or tie off the RP because you’re too busy with something new.
  • Talk about it. Let people know what’s going on – both your established RP relationships and your new and tantalizing ones. We all know what it’s like to have new RP and get swept away in it – but being left behind really sucks. Get things out in the open and work out a compromise.
  • Figure out where you and the other players want the established RP to go, and how best to maintain it. Whether that’s a pre-set time for RP, some new stories to toss around and keep things interesting, or just a mutually agreed on “break”. Whatever compromise happens, it MUST be alright with both players, or one is going to end up either angry or hurt. Communication people!
  • Don’t rely on “Assumed RP” – you know, the kind where you say “well, my character’s not online, so everything is hunky dory and they’re happy and nothing is really going on but it’s all happy and good” – That’s extremely unfun for the person who IS playing their character. Suddenly they’re responsible for fending off IC questions about their friend/lover/child, and they are forced into a sort of holding pattern. Not at all fun.*
  • Stick with your decisions and DBAD – no “sideline” RP in whispers while you’ve told someone else you’re there to RP with them; don’t show up and just want to chat OOCly about the exciting new thing you’re doing with another character. If you say you’re there to RP, show up and RP – if you can’t, then talk about that and get that in the open as well. And be prepared for there to be some hurt feelings if you repeatedly skip out on RP.

It all (surprise, surprise) goes back to communication.

These kinds of situations crop up all the time, especially for those of us that have many alts and like to RP with lots of them. And, let me reiterate, there is NO PROBLEM with liking to RP with lots of alts, and having various relationships scattered around for them. The problem only comes when something new takes you away from established RP and you end up leaving someone behind and stagnating.

So keep talking, make sure you know what your limits are, and make sure you’re really listening to the other people you RP with. Once you establish an RP connection, any decisions you make for your character will automatically start to affect other characters (even if they’re just friends) – facing up to what’s going on and actually talking about it can head off a lot of hurt feelings down the line.


* A note about Assumed RP: Most RP situations occasionally rely on Assumed RP, especially if both players have to be away from game for awhile. That’s absolutely OK and not any sort of problem. The problem with Assumed RP is when one player suddenly stops playing a character, but will not give up on the already existing relationship. If you can’t devote the time to a RP connection, find a way to break it off for awhile – making other players wait around in a holding pattern where they can’t play their character but they want to is kind of rude and rather unfair. It’s also not at all fun, and can ruin a character for another player. Take a break, let there be an IC break, and let the character “go free” if you’re not willing to put the time into that particular RP story.

Cataclysm and Spoilers
comment 4 Written by on May 6, 2010 – 9:14 am

As a reminder, this blog will be story and lore spoiler free until Cataclysm releases, and Cataclysm info in general free until 2-3 weeks before the game itself releases.

This extends to the comments.

If you post spoilers or links to Cataclysm information, I will delete your comments. If you do so repeatedly, I will block you from commenting.

There are lots of places on the internet you can get spoilers, information, screenshots, and the newest rumors, including some that don’t seem to mind whether or not they’re under an NDA. Please feel free to enjoy them, and have lots of fun poring over the information about the new expansion elsewhere. There is no shortage of space on the internet to discuss Cataclysm. There’s also a Lich King to recover from, a Ruby Sanctum to explore, and all the upcoming, in game, still existing Wrath of the Lich King changes and content to RP through. WotLK doesn’t end because Cataclysm alpha leaks begin, and I’d like to keep it that way around here.

Please help me to keep this space safe for others who, like me, choose to experience a new expansion when it’s released and not before.



Introducing: Annata Calderaro
comment 9 Written by on May 5, 2010 – 5:03 pm

That’s right – another Anna to join the fold.

I’m now able to run two WoW accounts (due to some fortuitous and star-aligned happenings), and so it’s possible for me to add in new characters again. I’ve previously been running with 10 characters on Feathermoon – and now I have my eleventh!


Solidly built and capable looking, Annata appears to be in her mid thirties. Her hair is thick and wavy, and while still mostly black, is starting to grey at the temples. Her eyes are deep set and dark brown.

Annata is a rogue (and currently level 16 – woo!) Being a low level rogue is difficult, especially since my most recent leveling endeavors were a prot warrior, a ret paladin, and a feral druid. (I’m used to being a LOT less squishy). Still, stealth is hax, and I’m having a lot of fun sneaking around and stealing stuff completing quests.

From a character perspective, Annata is a master poisoner (and she’s an herbalist accordingly) – so I’ll probably be taking her into the Assassination tree for all of the fun poison talents. Probably. For now, I’m still working on getting my “please don’t see me while sneaking” and “please let my offhand actually hit once in awhile” talents. She’s a Stromgarde citizen (or was) and a low ranking associate of Ravenholdt.

I’ve not yet gotten to do a lot of actual RPing with her, since the Riders have been pretty busy lately, so I’ve been around with Aely a lot more than anyone else. Hopefully I’ll get some time to explore the character – I’d really like for her to meet some of the rest of the crew, as she’s a little more … shall we say … morally fluid. (Which makes her more unusual in my character set, and I’m REALLY looking forward to exploring that aspect of WoW.)



PPS: Calderaro is a medieval Italian surname for Cauldron maker. Annata’s former husband was a blacksmith, and she is a master poisoner. (No, she didn’t kill her husband. She’s from Stromgarde, and he was killed in one of the many invasions there.)

A Thousand Squawks
comment 6 Written by on May 4, 2010 – 5:14 am


The part you may have trouble seeing, unless you open the link, is that Annylais is level 70. I did not train Swift Flight Form from the Druid Trainer at level 71. I did the quests (solo, at level 70), and then I killed Anzu this afternoon, with the help of some friends. It rocked.



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